- Single woman
- 38 years old
- Professor
- from Germany
Decision I Had to Make
Giving up on Motherhood
When I decided to pursue a research career at a Japanese university, I simultaneously gave up on the idea of having children. Despite the presence of many Western men in Japan, I realized that it would be difficult to meet someone who would love me, start a relationship, find a suitable life partner, and eventually get married, pregnant, and have children while working in a foreign country. As an only child, I felt a deep sense of guilt when I told my parents, “I’m sorry I can’t give you grandchildren.”
The Struggle of Wanting a Family
Two years into my job in Japan, several of my colleagues went on maternity leave. While I was happy for them, I couldn’t help but feel a pang of envy and longing. From that point on, I spent countless hours on my commute pondering how single women in Japan could have children and searching for information. Unfortunately, I couldn’t find any promising solutions. I even tried using dating apps to meet Western men, but was disappointed to find that most were only interested in casual relationships.
Serendipitous Discovery
I considered importing sperm from a sperm bank in a Western country, but the process was both complicated and expensive. Just when I thought I would have to give up on the dream of having a child, I stumbled upon the Samurai Donor website. I had been researching the history of Japanese society for my research, and the word “samurai” led me to the website.
The information on the website was exactly what I was looking for. I was surprised to find a potential solution to my problem. However, since I had been imagining having a child with a Western man, I was hesitant when I learned that the donor, Masa, was Japanese. After doing some research, I discovered that there were many people with both Japanese and Western heritage and that individuals of mixed Japanese and Western descent were thriving in the arts. I realized that having a child with two cultural identities in this increasingly globalized world was not a bad thing. I decided to ask Samurai Donor for a sperm donation.
New Beginning
I was still nervous about getting pregnant and giving birth in Japan, where English is not widely spoken. However, thanks to Masa’s selfless donation, I was able to give birth to a healthy baby. Recently, I had my parents visit Japan, and we spent a wonderful time together as a family of four. I am considering having another child, so I may reach out to you again. I want to express my sincere gratitude to Masa.